WonderDad of the Week – Nils Dahlgren, The Dad Life of a Single Father With 3 Boys
May 24, 2019
As Dads, we tend to want to be the fun parent in our kids lives while they’re growing up. But sometimes all of the everyday “adulting” responsibilities get in the way and leaves us yearning for a break from our normal routine and searching for ways to create extraordinary memories with our children. Whether just an hour or a weekend, it’s important to plan and do activities that make for magical moments that will last a lifetime.
We need to keep in mind that kids remember experiences, not the latest iPad or that new doll that came with a million accessories, which usually just ends up getting scattered throughout the house only for you to eventually, painfully, step on. Thus causing you to involuntarily shout the curse word you told your kids to never ever say. What will be remembered are the experiences you share together as a family. Especially if those experiences start consistently appearing on the family calendar and are guaranteed weekly or monthly. By doing so you’re starting to “brand” your trips and activities together. This will give these memories an identity which is something that triggers a fleeting thought from childhood that they can cherish forever.
One of the best ways to do just this is by starting “Daddy Day” or “Dad Day”, depending on the age of your child. Daddy Day is when you schedule a set day and time each week or month to do something together, consistently. It can be anything from making breakfast together every other Sunday morning, leaving work a few hours early every Wednesday (if possible) to be there when they get home from school,or simply a movie night on the 15th of every month. The activities you can do together are endless, and can be different every Daddy Day. Some more fun ideas can be trying a new restaurant, sampling every ice cream place in your area, playing your child’s favorite sport, or taking a class together to learn something new. The key to Daddy Day is having a set time each month so your child can look forward to it. You can discuss what you are going to do beforehand, surprise them or they can even surprise you. Making it a ritual has the added benefit of showing your children that you are making time just for them.
Although Daddy Day may seem like just another thing to add to your busy schedule and just be another headache, it’s actually the opposite. It’s the item on the calendar that gives fathers some peace of mind because it is a treasured tradition that kids look forward to that makes your bond even stronger each time you follow through on plans together. It ensures that you’re doing your best as a Dad. Start your list of ideas today and don’t forget to take at least 1 photo together every Daddy Day to make the memories last a lifetime!